Supporting Grieving Friends and Family During the Holidays

The holiday season is a special time of year for families throughout our community to gather with their loved ones. Our funeral home staff members love spending time with family and friends at social events and festive celebrations in our area. Throughout the year, we help families cope with grief in a variety of ways and notice grief can be particularly challenging during the holiday season. Knowing how to show up for grieving friends and family isn’t always easy or straightforward. Consider taking action to support those you love who are grieving the death of a loved one.
Send them an invite to holiday gatherings.
For many families, the holidays are a time of social events and get-togethers. When you’re grieving an intense loss, however, you might not feel up to attending holiday gatherings. Being around a lot of people can be stressful and strangely enhance feelings of isolation and loneliness. If you’re hosting a small- to medium-sized holiday party, send an invite to your friend or family member who is grieving. Even if they don’t decide to attend, they’ll likely appreciate the invite. Do your best not to take a “no” from someone who is grieving personally—they may simply feel too tired to take part in a social activity.
Be flexible with plan making.
Just as a grieving friend or family member may turn down an invite, they may also make last-minute changes to plans to see you. Maybe you invite them out for coffee periodically, only to have them back out the day of your arranged meeting. Do your best to accommodate their schedule and comfort level. For example, offer to bring the coffee to their house or a nearby park.
Pitch in with holiday decorating.
Putting up holiday decorations, whether it’s indoors or out, often requires a lot of physical effort. Ask your grieving family member or friend if they need help decorating the inside of their house or front yard. If they say yes, you’ll not only support your loved one but also get to spend some quality time together.
Talk about their loved one.
You may think your grieving friend or family member doesn’t wish to talk about their loved one. Speaking their loved one’s name or sharing your favorite memories of them can help your friend or family member feel closer to their loved one. You may even feel more connected in your relationship with your friend or family member as a result.
This holiday season, contact our compassionate staff to access grief support resources and learn more about coping with grief. We are available 24/7 to help families in our community navigate the grief journey.
