How to Honor a Deceased Loved One at Your Wedding

A wedding presents a special opportunity to gather with loved ones to celebrate a momentous life occasion. If you are planning a wedding, you may feel called to honor a deceased loved one during the ceremony. There are many ways to pay tribute to a loved one this way, and our Walker Funeral Homes and Crematory staff encourages brides- and grooms-to-be to approach this aspect of the wedding ceremony with creativity and authenticity. If one of the following options resonates with you, feel free to adapt it to suit your venue and needs.
Wear something of theirs on your special day.
“Something borrowed, something blue…” goes the Old English wedding rhyme. Even if you don’t have something blue, you can wear an object that belonged to your loved one to honor their life. Perhaps it’s a piece of jewelry, a handkerchief tucked into a suit jacket pocket, or a wedding veil that belonged to your loved one. Having this item with you throughout the ceremony will keep you thinking of them as you say your vows.
Feature their signature recipe on the reception menu.
If your loved one was an avid cook or foodie, a wedding reception is the perfect place to pay tribute to them. Maybe they enjoyed eating olives or shrimp cocktail, so you serve these food items prior to the main meal. If your loved one was a talented baker, perhaps you could highlight their signature flavors, like strawberry or vanilla, in the wedding cake.
Honor your loved one in the wedding program.
The wedding program is a wonderful way to honor your loved one, as you’ll be able to keep the printed paper as a physical memento after the event has ended. You can add a line at the bottom of the page saying the ceremony is being held in your loved one’s honor and even include a favorite photo of them. Alternatively, you might place their favorite quote or line of poetry somewhere on the program. It’s a subtle way to remember your loved one on your wedding day.
Light a candle in memory of your loved one.
Candles create a beautiful ambience at a wedding, especially an evening ceremony or reception. Consider placing small tea lights on tables with a note encouraging guests to light a candle in honor of their own loved ones who have died. You might also light one large candle in honor of your loved one and place it in a prominent location in the ceremony venue.
Much like a funeral, a wedding is a meaningful gathering with loved ones to mark a momentous occasion. If you need help preplanning your own funeral or making arrangements for a loved one, contact our dedicated team.
